Apparently, 2012 is not when the world will end. According to a religious pamphlet I found on my bus ride home, it will end next year.

 

An Inappropiately Funny Tweet I Love

My asthma has been acting up all weekend, so I really didn't need to be doing any hardcore laughing today. I just could not help myself once I came across ThisGirlSaid on Twitter, though. Her tweets might be funnier than YouTweetedWhat, in my opinion. This find is fairly insignificant, but life is too serious not to laugh at such silliness. Please join me in laughing at her tweets.

SOSS:

This share is one of my favorite love songs. It's grown, it's sexy and it's funky as hell! It's Bootsy, baby!

Album Version

Id Rather Be With You (Album Version) - Bootsy Collins

Live Performance

Bootsy Collins .I'D Rather Be With You [Live]
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SOSS: Dyke Movies Worth Watching

Let me be honest about something: there is a lot to be embarrassed about in the world of gay cinema. When same-sex love and relationships in movies is cheesy or stereotypical, it's especially embarrassing. Because not only is it bad, but then I wonder, "Oh no; is this how straight people think we roll?!"

I have, however, managed to come across a few quality gay movies. What's even better is that the ones I'm listing here are lesbian movies. Yes, you read that correctly: good lesbian movies.

If you've never ventured into the realm of non-pornographic sapphic cinema  these movies would be a good place to start.

If you fancy something funny involving hospitals, a mother engaged in an affair that routinely talks shit in Chinese and a cute dancer, then check out Saving Face. It tickled me something good.
For stories set in boarding schools, full of drama and longing, peep Lost & Delirious and Loving Anabelle. Both are highly dramatic and bound to evoke a reaction, whether you like the way events unfold or not.

If you're in the mood for accents and different cultures, try Imagine Me & You, a British film starring Piper Perabo from Lost & Delirious,  I Can't Think Straight  or Fire. The latter two tackle elements of religion and tradition, in addition to woman-on woman love.

Why You Trippin'? I Ain't Even Do Nothin!

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Fun, party music made by youngsters has its place. But unless I'm partying it's generally not my thing. Today, my sister was watching a saved episode of The Monique Show. The show featured a couple party music-making youngsters, New Boyz. They're barely out of high school, but have an album out, Skinny Jeans and a Mic, largely because of the success of their single, "You're a Jerk". The song's fun, but what struck me about these kids is how they cobbled together the money to make it. When asked by Monique how they did it, they replied, "Do you really wanna know?"

I was like "Holy hell, they robbed and sold drugs, too?" Nowhere close. These kids did what I used to do to raise money for my Girl Scout troop about ten years ago: they SOLD CANDY. They bought a bunch of blank CDs and bags of candy and handed their music out with the candy they sold. The buzz they built off of that is what got them where they are now.

They gained so much respect from me.

You're A Jerk

New Boyz | MySpace Video

The Importance of Getting Over Shit

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Had my most recent serious relationship still been intact, I would've celebrated my two year anniversary a couple weeks ago. Realizing that sucked. Because while I've "talked" to and tried dating other women during the year that we've been apart, I've realized that I'm still not over her. At all. This may sound pathetic, but I don't give a flying fuck. It's true.

I've had fun, some late nights out at the club, some furiously alcohol-fueled make out sessions. The truth is though, that I don't feel like I would've been missing anything if I hadn't experienced that. I could've had even more fun with X. Meeting new people was fun, but it lost its novelty very quickly. X and I had issues, which came to a boil and resulted in the most ridiculous break up ever, but we had also made a lot of progress as a couple and individuals while we were together. On top of that, we had a really awesome friendship. She would sometimes get mad (she had anger & jealousy problems; I was very aloof at times) and try convincing me that we didn't get along, but we could talk about anything. We could turn the most boring situation into a laugh-fest for the two of us. And after it was all over, we could have great sex. We supported each other however we could and got whatever we couldn't do alone accomplished as a team.

Now, she's in a relationship with the least deserving bitch I've ever met. Call me bitter; cal me a hater; it is what it is. This chick runs errands, lets X use her car when hers is acting up, and helps with bills. But she's also psychotically possessive and extremely immature. She is three years X and I's junior. When she recounts stories to me, it's hard to tell whether X is talking about her girlfriend or her child. She's tried laying hands on X, which X shut down post haste. X is MUCH stronger than her girlfriend. Still, why should she be going through that?

None of this would have happened though, if I could've just gotten over shit. X broke up with me during a fight and behaved in a deeply hurtful matter. This was in addition to the hurt her anger problems had already caused. At the time we broke up, she hadn't yet made good on a promise from six months earlier to see a therapist. A couple of months passed and she was in counseling. But over the next few months, I refused to see the very real strides she was making. More importantly I refused to get over the angry X I already knew and trust her with my feelings. I went so far as to be an ass and say hurtful things myself. X was the woman that made me rethink my not wanting kids or wanting to get kids. What did I open my mouth and say to her? 

I can't be in a monogamous relationship with you. 

What a crock of shit! That has to be one of the dumbest things I've ever said. It accomplished what I wanted it to at the time, though. It made her hurt. I hate to admit that I wanted X to hurt, but in retrospect, it's obvious I did. I was hurting and I wanted her to share in my misery. After that, it made her decision of whether to move on with someone else easier. And that someone else is the aforementioned undeserving bitch that she would not be in comfortable calamity with had I been able to be forthcoming about my feelings, so that I could get over past hurt. I know the choice to be in that relationship is hers, but it doesn't negate the fact that I had a hand in pushing her into it.

Obama, Education & the Gays

On education:

Unlike many pundits and other bloggers positing the merits -or perceived lack thereof- of lengthening the public school year, I am not far removed from the public school system. 

I graduated in May of 2005 and spent ALL of my formative years in public school. I also have a 15 year old sister who is a freshman at my alma mater So while it seems like it's been a while to me, it's not that long ago that I was trudging through the very school system that President Obama is hoping to tweak. Additionally, I'm still actively involved in it through my sister. As much as I came to despise public education in high school, I'd like to see it succeed and I think that Obama is on to something.

In order to do what the president is talking about, more federal money will have to be disbursed to public schools. That's something he has said repeatedly that he is willing to do. With more money, school districts can hire more teachers, retain the good ones, and reinstate discarded arts, music and athletic program. With longer school days, students will have more time to do work in school. Currently, my little sister is in at-level courses, no honors, no advanced placement (AP). This is her first year in high school, mind you. There have been nights that I've helped her with 3 hours worth of homework-for just one class! With a longer school day, students can have time for study hall (something I never had) and more time to actually STUDY at home, as opposed to just breaking even on work.This will give students time to actually ABSORB what they are learning, which is something that I can attest is not happening much these days.
 

On an episode of The View, Whoopi Goldberg voiced her opposition, saying that parents in her day had to invent ways to keep kids entertained during holidays. It's her feeling that today's parents should not be exempt from that. In addition to being over 30 years removed from high school, Whoopi is missing the point. She's right on a lot, but totally wrong on this. Kids don't even need as much time off as they get. They have way too much vacation and too much work with not enough time to do it in. Between Thanksgiving, Christmas, Spring and Summer Breaks, faculty training days, and early release days, kids get enough vacation.. As excited as they get for summer break, ask a public school student how theirs went and I'd bet what few ducats I have that a majority of them will tell you they were bored stupid after the first month.

On us gays:

The long and short of it is that Obama has been way too silent on issues of importance to the queer community since taking office. We overwhelmingly supported him during campaign season and were very vocal about it. We were counting on him to repeal the Defense of Marriage Act and the asinine Don't Ask, Don't Tell, Don't Pursue policy. I personally never expected him to swoop into office with legislation already written. I did however, except Mr. President to keep us abreast of how matters concerning DOMA and DADT were going. That he would run on a platform that included public promises to expand rights for the LGBT community and then be so publicly mute about it until the recent HRC dinner is pathetic.

I still think he'll come through, though. It wouldn't make any sense not to.