Nowadays people can normally spot sexual harassment fairly easily. Men
are normally thought to be the perpetraters, but it's increasingly
women. An interestingly enough,there seems to be more woman-on-woman
sexual harassment. In these cases what people often suspect is that
the harasser is some androgenic, feet up on her desk dyke tormenting
the unassuming straight girl.
In my experince,the reverse is true more than is realized.
I came out at seventeen. As an avowed lesbian during my senior year of
high school, I turned down no less than a dozen solicitations from
straight girls to do dirty things to them. One was even a PK
(preacher's kid). This PK routinely asked me about my then-girlfiriend
and I. She also routinely tried coaxing me into making out with
her...at school...whether or not we were within earshot of other
people. Was it the most offensive thing I had ever experienced? No.
Did I find it to be a bit much? Yes? Would it have been considered
sexual harassment had a male student been doing the same thing?
Absolutely.
Within the last year I experienced this again. The straight girl
thought nothing of it, until I notified an authority. She was livid
and had apparently never thought it would be a big deal... Or that if
someone overheard me joking back with her (which I never did), that it
could be taken the wrong way, and that I could end up in trouble for
sexually harassing her.
Now that wasn't even the most offensive thing to happen to me, but it
was quite jarring. It made me quite uncomfortable (something that
requires a lot of effort).
It also reminded me that despite the increasing acceptance gay and
bisexual people are receiving, it's quite easy to get in trouble, if
only because of others' perceptions of a situation that I happen to be
involved in as a gay person. Had I made sexual jokes with the young
woman who started with me, they would probably have sounded quite
inappropiate to the casual observer. Had they repeated that to an
authority before I stepped forward, I'm positive I would have been the
one reprimanded. I'm the out dyke with a close haircut that dresses in
men's clothes, the prowler. At least that's how heteronormal society
views me. Society doesn't give a second thought about labeling my type
the aggressor.
To be truthful, very frequently, the reverse is true. Femme lesbians
and straight women pursue us with a passion. I don't think I started
the initial pursuit of any girlfriend or woman I've been involved
with, and they've all been femme.
That's neither here nor there in the case of woman-on-woman sexual
harassment. It's still an underreported occurence and I presume will
remain such for a while.
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